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“It’s more accurate to focus on the result, which is ‘getting one’s thoughts across to many others,’ rather than the action of ‘confidently speaking out loud.‘”
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Assumptions:
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Causes:
- In the case of (blu3mo), it feels like this has resulted from the aftermath of Impostor Syndrome.
- Not being accustomed to confidently speaking out loud, there is a lack of understanding on how to deal with the gaze of others.
- Additionally, the culture of humility in Japan may also be influencing to some extent.
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Why this is not good:
- Not speaking out confidently can lead to many disadvantages.
- What are the drawbacks:
- Missing out on opportunities by not communicating with others
- [/tkgshn/Hiding information is a risk Memo - fladdict.net](https://scrapbox.io/tkgshn/情報を隠すことはリスク メモ - fladdict.net)
- /nishio/Information gathers around the information provider
- Difficulty in fulfilling the need for approval
- Not gaining Jiman Power from accomplishments
- Related: An environment where people who can confidently communicate benefit
- What are the drawbacks:
- However, there is resistance to confidently speaking out loud.
- In other words, a trade-off is created between the “disadvantages of not speaking out” and the “resistance to speaking out.”
- Not speaking out confidently can lead to many disadvantages.
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The solution to this problem can be broadly divided into two categories:
- (As long as one of the trade-offs is eliminated)
- Approach 1: Eliminate the mental resistance.
- It is ultimately unclear how to do this.
- Something like The Courage to Be Disliked? (I haven’t read it, so I’m not sure.)
- It seems that it just requires getting used to it (as I feel that not being accustomed to it is the root cause).
- It is ultimately unclear how to do this.
- Approach 2: Eliminate the disadvantages of not speaking out confidently.
- In this regard, I feel that I have somewhat achieved it by starting to communicate information in a confident manner like It’s Okay to Look on Scrapbox.
- However, there are still limitations to passive information sharing on Scrapbox.
- It would be good to create a system where it seems like I am passively sharing information, but in reality, I am speaking out more confidently.
- There is no real need to be passive; maintaining a certain level of Believability is sufficient.
- In this regard, I feel that I have somewhat achieved it by starting to communicate information in a confident manner like It’s Okay to Look on Scrapbox.
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Is there really a need to solve this problem?
- I am not particularly troubled by it at the moment, and I am able to obtain opportunities, information, and approval to a satisfactory extent.
- The strong awareness of this issue arises when comparing oneself to those who confidently speak out loud, which I think is a feeling close to envy towards those who seem to benefit more than oneself.
- Rather, I feel that this kind of awareness of the issue is creating worries and making me unhappy.
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Well, maybe there is no need to consciously try to solve this problem.
- Moderate Ambition and Resignation
- If Approach 1 can be resolved through familiarity, it seems like it will be achieved over time without even realizing it.
- So, if it is achieved, it’s lucky; if not, it’s not a big deal to maintain a relaxed mindset.
- Approach 2, on the other hand, is interesting as a topic for thought, regardless of whether it is related to my own issues.
- So, if any ideas for a product to solve it come to mind, it’s lucky to think about it with a relaxed mindset.
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Conclusion reached 🙌🙌
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Bluemo (@blu3mo)
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Feeling happy as if a long-standing concern has been resolved (or maybe just for now)
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The following is unorganized notes before sorting:
- With the tweet above and the method of communication like It’s Okay to Look (Scrapbox), the mental distress has been largely alleviated.
- However, the unresolved drawbacks of not being able to do it.- So, when I see gatherings of people who confidently speak out and benefit from it, it makes me anxious (even though there is no mental distress).
- Bluemo(@blu3mo)
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(Listening to#ankichi’s room, I gradually become anxious about not being able to confidently speak out) (Well, it can’t be helped)
- https://twitter.com/blu3mo/status/1418215822531579907
- Ultimately, I think about how easy or difficult it is to feel bothered by interacting with others.
- Without changing my way of living, I want to think of ways to minimize this disadvantage.
- It would be great if SNS platforms in the format of It’s Okay to Look became standard (?)
- This is unlikely since those who want to be seen are definitely more attractive.
- It would be great if SNS platforms in the format of It’s Okay to Look became standard (?)
Related
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An environment where people who can confidently communicate benefit
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I’m not good at interfering with others when I’m not sure if I’m right
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Phrases of the mind
- I made a note thinking that some phrase related to “mind” might be relevant, but I forgot what it was.
- I feel like it’s something about groveling.
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In the end, am I just afraid of negative evaluations from others?
- Even if I receive negative evaluations, it doesn’t make me sad since my self-evaluation is already low.
- Is it that my self-evaluation is high, but I lack confidence in that evaluation?
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Because I haven’t felt the benefits of speaking out so much, do the disadvantages/fears seem bigger?
- I’ve recently thought that there are good things when communicating properly with people, so I am conscious of that.
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I feel like I have rough generalizations and assumptions about “I am this kind of person.”
- I want to avoid such things.
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I want to increase the number of close friends.
- It’s not that I dislike interacting with people.
- However, how would it be if I wanted to have ten thousand followers?
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If self-evaluation and self-esteem are high, do you feel anxious not knowing if it’s correct?
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I want to think using Keicho.
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Write down the phenomena and consider the general reasons for them.
- I was able to create scrapbox-duplicator, but I didn’t really think about promoting it to a large audience.
- I didn’t imagine the benefits, but there were actually good things.
- Conversely, (since Bluemo) can move his hands, if I don’t share information, I think others will take advantage (tkgshn).
- [/tkgshn/Hiding information is a risk Memo - fladdict.net#6056e64b09c5f20000ac0480](https://scrapbox.io/tkgshn/情報を隠すことはリスク メモ - fladdict.net#6056e64b09c5f20000ac0480)
- For example, scrapbox-duplicator could be interpreted as (tkgshn) snatching profits.
- In the culture of code, there may not be a culture of including licenses or credits (such as Bluemo’s ID) for other creative works.
- How do you feel about the case where you think “I will lose out if I don’t put myself out there” at that time? (tkgshn)
- I’m not good at showing off awards.
- This might be specific to awards.
- I feel resistance to writing “Unto2020” in my Twitter profile.
- I understand. It feels like it’s embarrassing to showcase that.
- But I don’t think it’s just that I want to hide it; there are conflicting feelings.
- I was able to create scrapbox-duplicator, but I didn’t really think about promoting it to a large audience.
I’ve always wanted to be humble, but in the end, it was just that I didn’t want to be seen as arrogant… Probably, being able to listen to others’ opinions immediately even while being a bit conceited is just right. @carpediem_530 May 6, 2021- I feel like the proficiency in Turn-Based Communication is a separate issue. - The cause may be related though.