Being Patted on the Head by Adults in Childhood

Basically, people easily break when they are pampered by adults during their childhood. For instance, a Nada High School student who developed an iOS app in middle school may not be doing well now. When professionals in the field praise them as “impressive (for their age),” they start focusing only on adults’ reactions and put in more effort. I think this is a kind of spoil. @(fukusanity) January 5, 2024

• “‘Being pampered by adults makes people easily break.‘”

  • Here, “break” refers more to a malfunction in one’s evaluation axis rather than not achieving success.

• Regarding my understanding of life until around 18 years old:

  • I was “pampered by adults”
    • [U22 Programming Contest], [Sun Microsystems Education Foundation], [Unexplored]
  • I did not start “focusing only on adults’ reactions”
    • Because I thought I was being overrated
      • Wondering what’s so special about winning the Ministry of Economy, Trade and Industry Award
      • I have never won an award, but I can relate to the feeling (takker)
        • Just expanding formulas according to the rules, or simply changing the notation
        • I only focused on the design in the slides
        • The UserScript was mostly a copy of someone else’s work
    • [Impostor Syndrome]
    • My question in “[Try to Soften Your Own Voice a Little and Accept Others’ Voices Openly]” is a clear example of that
  • Instead, I always carried the fear of “breaking” as mentioned here
    • The fear of getting carried away due to overestimation
      • [I have resistance to confidently speaking out loud]
    • The fear of being exposed for overestimation someday
      • This is just regular [Impostor Syndrome]
    • I can relate to it quite a bit (takker)
  • Nonetheless, I somehow enjoyed the benefits of “overestimation”
    • I used my achievements in U22 to gain confidence, and seized opportunities like Tobitate using them

• Hmm, I tried writing the above to explain, but it wasn’t something that could be explained so simply (blu3mo)(blu3mo)

  • It was a buildup of ambivalent emotions that couldn’t be explained so simply
  • I did think I could code compared to most of my peers, but I also vaguely understood the meaninglessness of it, and my feelings about achievements were a mix of fear and joy
  • It was a life of struggling with self-esteem during my teenage years

• Somehow, by continuing to run, I have started to accept others’ evaluations to some extent and believe that I have acquired some skills

  • I don’t think I was spoiled by “being pampered” in my own view

• Good story (takker)

• Nevertheless, I feel a slight inflation of my ego lately, so I want to think about that as well.